The Daily Word for July 23, 2021

 

pre-loved - adjective - second hand

It has been a long, long time since I have heard the term "pre-loved." "Used" or "nearly-new" I hear a lot. How about you? And I have always been a fan of thrift shops because I can usually find something pre-loved that is in really good shape for pittance. But what if I were to tact on a secondary definition to the word's existing one? Perhaps a more literal one? If I could, I would add 2. the experience of having loved. 

Honestly, I don't think too many of us out there really know how to love each other. And I don't necessarily censure anyone for inability because human nature is so self-absorbed. Yes, it is important to love oneself, but it is also essential to empathize. Real love depends on the ability to walk in someone else's shoes, even the very uncomfortable ones that were probably a mistake to buy. Selfishness can be seen when we blame others who have hurt us before we blame ourselves for wrongs we might have committed because we get caught up in our own pain. After the dissolution of our love affairs, we promise ourselves that we will never take the risk of trying to love so closely again, but we always do. Sometimes we repeat patterns. The pre-loved try to love unselfishly again and again sans realizing they are equally as selfish as the selfish that they take the risk to love. And it goes on and on and on. 

So what is the takeaway? Those of you who are pre-loved (definition 2) shouldn't allow yourselves to become pre-loved (definition 1). You shouldn't allow heartbreak to let you feel used, nearly new. You should embrace each disappointment, accept that you, too, have made mistakes because it does take two to tango, and dance on, alone, if necessary. After all, there is nothing wrong with dancing with yourself as long as you like the music you've chosen. And you can choose the playlist, the soundtrack of life. Thank Goodness for free will.

Have a wonderful Friday! 

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